Male Loneliness
Do you see it? It's all around me. Is it all around you, too?
I've become fascinated with, intrigued by, and much more aware over the last several years of my own loneliness as a man and father and notice how prevalent this condition appears to be in our society.
When I saw the Saturday Night Live sketch titled "Man Park" a couple of weeks ago, I found it funny and oh so true of my own experience. (Visit YouTube and search "Man Park - SNL" to watch "A commercial (that) advertises an outdoor park made especially for men.")
We (*I*) have a strong desire for connection, especially with other men and Dads.
As males, we tend to lose our ability to deeply connect with others somewhere in our high school and college years.
Society tells us to achieve more, to get promoted, to get a raise, and then another. It's never enough. We receive conditioning that encourages "success" and prohibits close relationships. This all makes meaningful connections with others, particularly men, increasingly difficult and appear further out of reach.
The focus shifts toward being Providers, Pro-creators, and Protectors.
Each time I see the question, “Who would you call in the middle of the night if you were sick or afraid?” I come up with a fairly short list (my own judgement).
I'm on a journey to change my answer and help others to change their answer, too.
For me, the journey started with a dose of vulnerability. It's hard to even consider you're lonely much less take steps to do something about it.
Small steps lead to big things. What might begin with a simple "hi" or "wanna grab a beer" can lead to brilliant conversations and kinship. Engage in discussions that extend beyond sports and the weather. Become curious about the other person.
The journey takes time. A journey I believe is well worth the effort.
Think of it as an adventure. We get to explore happier lives, families, and marriages and become healthier as well.
You benefit, we benefit, our friends and family benefit, society benefits.
You're worth it.
Create your life.
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Do you want more connection and camaraderie in your life? Stay tuned for opportunities in 2022. If you want to learn more or just have someone you can talk with, schedule time for us to chat at https://markstaelgraeve.as.me/breakthrough.
